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Wife Wednesday: A 20 Hour Flight, A Toddler, and Teething

Hi all,

If the title of my post is any clue, the Hadleys aren’t getting a lot of sleep at the moment. Thankfully, the teething toddler was not on the 20 hour flight, otherwise that would have surpassed the definition of misery. Chesson is in Malaysia and Hughesie and I are holding camp back in the States while this tooth takes its sweet time popping out. Even though we are apart, none of the 3 of us have slept a lot during the past 48 hours, but hopefully we have turned the corner.

Chesson left from the McGladrey to head to Malaysia, via Jacksonville, New York and Hong Kong. He had a business class seat so he was able to lie his seat flat and get several hours of sleep, but even that doesn’t compare to a real bed. They are 12 hours ahead of us on the East Coast, so Chesson tees off while you and I are finishing dinner tonight at 8:15pm.

While we were in Saint Simons, Hughes turned 1. I can’t believe we have a 1 year old. This year has gone by so fast. There were a couple long days, but the weeks and months just flew and we don’t have a baby anymore. We had a fun little family birthday party for him with a ‘Little Man’ theme… think mustaches and bow ties… and enjoyed watching him play with his presents.

So far, the new season has been up and down. For golf, Napa was okay, Vegas was terrible, and St Simons was good (save that darn 16th hole which he double-bogeyed on both Saturday and Sunday). Off the course, we had a blast in all 3 cities. Napa is romantic, Vegas is fun, and St Simons is just one of our all-around favorite places. The Fall Events and the West Coast Swing are my favorite stretches of tournaments for sure.

Hughes and I are finished traveling for PGA Tour events for 2014, and Chesson will be finished after Malaysia. We are excited for a couple month offseason! Our offseason calendar is filling up quickly and Chesson is playing in a couple of non-Tour events, but we are excited for some down time.

Ok, that’s the bulk of what I can think of as far as an update. I’ll be in and out over here… but definitely I will put a picture up of our little man dressed up for Halloween.

Blessings!
~Amanda~

Wife Wednesday: Rookie of the Year

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Hi everyone,

First of all, a big congratulations are in order for my husband. He was named the PGA Tour Rookie of the Year yesterday as voted on by his peers. While he was already rookie of the year in my mind, it was wonderful for him to earn that honor officially and he is grateful to his fellow players for choosing him. You can read an article on it from our local paper HERE.

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Secondly, this offseason is flying by. After the BMW, we started the time off by becoming frightfully sick. Although Hughes fared the best of the 3 of us, we all were the sickest we have ever been. And we were on top of a mountain with no cell service. Brutal. We ended up having to get shuttled to an Urgent Care for fluids because of how bad it was, and needless to say, it wiped us out for several days and delayed our return home. Not exactly the way you want to spend a vacation, but we were grateful it didn’t happen to us during a tournament. Of all times for it to happen, it was the best time it could have been.

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ince then, I feel like the weeks have flown by. We’ve been taking care of odds and ends, going to our favorite places, and enjoying time together as a family. We got our new bed from Furnitureland South and our new mattress from Mattress Firm and we are LOVING it! Thanks to both companies for hooking us up!! Chesson also had a chance to play in a Georgia Tech fundraiser and work with his swing coach. And just like that, we are preparing for the season to begin again.

Chesson likes the wraparound schedule for the steady golf, but it sure leaves me feeling like we don’t really have an offseason. Many of the Tour veterans still take off most (if not all) of the fall season to give themselves several months of rest, so hopefully we will be in that boat one day.

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While in Napa, we are going to return to the place where we honeymooned and we can’t wait! We have talked about it ever since we left and always wanted to go back, and I’m thrilled we are getting the chance to return sooner than I would’ve thought. I’m excited to get the season kicked off and see our Tour family again. Chess has battled a few setbacks in recent weeks, so hopefully he will have everything in top form and be ready to go by the time the tournament starts.

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As for a Hughes update, little man is a ball of energy. Literally from the time he wakes up in the morning until he falls asleep at night, he is constantly moving. He crawls faster than I’ve ever seen a baby crawl, climbs on top of everything, walks between furniture, squeals/ screams to get our attention, and is completely mischievous. He’s not yet walking on his own, but we don’t think it’s very far off. He is so much fun right now and we’ve really enjoyed taking him places and watching him interact with his friends since we’ve been home.

I’ll update again next week from wine country. Hope everyone is well!

Blessings,
~Amanda~

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Wife Wednesday: Hello Denver!

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Hi all,

Last week was pretty exciting for us. Or maybe I mean this week, since the tournament finished on Monday? My body clock is so confused between the different tournament days and now the different time zone, but regardless, we are in Denver and thrilled to still be alive in the FedEx Cup playoffs! Chesson was outside of the number (he was 84th I think) going into last week and needed a really good week to advance. He played well and finally had a lot of the pieces of his game trending in the right direction. He finished T-9 which vaulted him up to 57th on the FedEx list and secured his invitation to Denver.

Monday (Labor Day) was quite a crazy day for me. I do all of our travel planning/ packing/ scheduling and usually have in finished well in advance. With the position we were in, we had no idea where we would be flying after the tournament. I had 2 flights set aside, one to Raleigh and one to Denver, that both left in the 7 o’clock hour. Boston airport was an hour away from the course, so we knew we had to race to get there either way. I had the car packed up and Hughes waiting on Chesson as he finished 18. He signed his card, did a few interviews, threw his golf bag in, and off we went to the airport. Thankfully it was a happy car ride with how he played and I booked our flight to Denver on the way. We made it there with time to spare and eased through security. Probably 15 guys in the field this week were on our flight. The big unknown was how Hughes was going to handle a 4 hour flight during his bedtime, but I’m happy to report that we were blown away by how well he did. He wanted to climb over the seats and play for the first 30 minutes, got restless and fussy as we tried to coax him to sleep the next 15 minutes, then slept the entire rest of the way. 3.5 hours!! It was amazing. He woke up once we landed and with delays in getting our luggage and the hour drive to Cherry Hills, he was up for 2 hours from 12:30-2:30am his time. He almost never made a peep though and went back to sleep when we finally got settled in at our hotel. To say we were proud parents is an understatement.

Yesterday, I wanted to reward him for his behavior–plus do something fun with him besides sit in our hotel room–so we found a little toddler gym here in Denver. They had a play area just for crawlers like Hughes and we basically had the whole place to ourselves. He had the best time and just grinned and laughed at me every 30 seconds or so. He played hard for the hour and a half that we were there and we barely made it out of the parking lot before he was sound asleep. They have a well-known Children’s Museum here as well as the big Denver Zoo, so we might try to plan some other outings later this week.

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We went with Chesson to the course yesterday morning to eat breakfast, check in, and get the lay of the land. This tournament is FIRST-CLASS. Everywhere we turn someone is trying to accommodate us… they even took Hughes’ stroller tray that had mashed banana all over it into the kitchen after breakfast and cleaned it for me. Say what?? Chesson loves the course and how great of shape it’s in and he’s excited to play his first tournament with no cut. After the past few months, that’s something to celebrate! I adore being in the mountains and hope I have time while I’m here to get out of the valley. I would spend a week here over a week at the beach any day.

Chesson would love to make it to Atlanta next week and it’s going to take a pretty special week here to do it. He needs to finish somewhere in the Top 5 or better to have a shot, so while it’s a bit of a long shot, he can do it! I’m just happy to see him encouraged about golf and playing well.

Thanks everyone for following along with us on this ride!

Blessings,
~Amanda~

Wife Wednesday: Endings

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Ah, the end.

The end of the season is upon us. As of right now, this will be Chesson’s last tournament of the year, but a good week on the course could get us into Colorado next week. Either way, it’s a win-win in my book. I’m excited for a reset. For no more golf for a little while. I’m excited for Friday nights to be fun instead of stressing over cuts. I’m excited for church at home and coffee at our favorite coffee shop and Hughes to not be stuck in hotel room closets. I’m excited to cook and shop for our new mattress. Some endings are hard, but not this one. This one will be sweet. And just about the time I start to miss airplanes and hotels and washing bottles in bathroom sinks, we’ll be packing up for Napa.

Speaking of endings, back to school season is here and I feel like everywhere I go people are talking about it– reminiscing of days gone by, dreading sending their 5 year old to kindergarten or their 18 year old to college, and reminding me to savor every minute. Even on Tour, once school starts, there are fewer wives and kids out on the road. It’s kind of sad. I have no idea what I will do or how I will feel once Hughes reaches school age, and thankfully I have several years to just enjoy him before we have to make any decisions. However, I have been blessed by reading two articles lately about sending your kids off the school that really made me think… and tear up… and ache for time to stand still sometimes. I wanted to pass them along to my mama readers. The first one is an easy read and the second goes a little deeper. I’ve included my favorite excerpts below with the link to the full article.

(Side note to any men who I haven’t already lost, I’m venturing into emotional territory with these tear jerkers. If you stop reading here, it won’t hurt my feelings.)

“Let me be the first one to tell you “Good job, Mama. You survived. You watched as your heart grew outside of your body, and then you prepared him to greet the world alone. He is ready, because when they placed him in your arms, you were.”
Full article: To My Fellow Moms, on the First Day of Kindergarten

“I’m not partial to how much you remember of calculus; but it’s dire that you know that the sum of how you see the ordinary is all that ever adds up to an extraordinary life. The lessons any kid remembers are the ones his parents lived.” 
Full article: How to Really Send the Kids Back to School & Out Into the World

So good. They make you think, right? They certainly help keeps things in perspective and remind us of what’s really important.

Hope everyone is having a great week!

Blessings,
Amanda

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Wife Wednesday: Playoffs, Ragtime Rendezvous

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Hi all!

Hope all is going well. We are officially on our final stretch of the season–the Playoffs. Crazy to think that Chesson’s rookie season is just about over. Although I think of Hawaii as the beginning of the season, it technically started at the Fry’s last October, when I was very pregnant and homebound. So, there’s part of me that thinks this season has flown by and another part that can’t believe Hughes wasn’t even born at the beginning of the season. For us, it has been a season of high highs and low lows. I’m not sure if this life is like that for all pros out here, but it certainly has been for us so far. I’m going into the Playoffs hopeful for some good play, but also grateful that regardless of how it goes, the season will be over soon. Can you tell this mama is excited for some time away from golf?

Last night was the PGA Tour Wives Association’s big fundraiser of the year, themed a ‘Ragtime Rendezvous’. We dressed in 1920’s attire and participated in a murder mystery at a mansion, complete with an acting troupe, guest appearances by Mary Higgins Clark and Harlan Coben, and excellent food. It was so fun getting dressed up and having an adults night out, but most importantly, it raised a lot of money for Children’s Aid and Family Services, which provides medical care to abused/ special needs children in the local foster system, among several other things. I don’t read much in the way of fiction–and especially not murder mysteries (hello scaredy cat!)–but it was really cool to meet such esteemed writers.

The weather this week is perfect (so far) and we are close enough to see the New York skyline, yet far enough away that we don’t encounter the crazy traffic. Most of the people I’ve met who live here are commuters and take a 1.5 hour train ride into the city each day. I seriously can’t imagine that. I think it’s so typical up here that no one complains but it makes me beyond thankful that I don’t have to deal with that… then again I think if most of those people had seen me wrestling with/ feeding/ trying to calm our 9 month old on the flight yesterday, they probably would’ve thought, “I’m so thankful I don’t have to deal with that every week”. Haha. To each his own I guess.

We rented a house with some tour friends this week and are enjoying quality time together. Ridgewood is an old club with a beautiful Norman style clubhouse and Chesson says the course is in great shape. It is already a great week off the course; here’s hoping it’s a great week on the course as well.

Blessings,
Amanda

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Wife Wednesday: Checking In

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Hi everyone!

Hope you are having wonderful summers! Time is flying by around here and my active, active baby boy keeps me busy all day long. I don’t think I was quite prepared for how quickly life would change once Hughes became mobile. In literally 1 week’s time, he went from sitting on the floor playing to crawling to pulling up on furniture to standing on his own… all while popping 2 front teeth. Which also means, in 1 week’s time, I went from being able to leave him on the floor playing while I did something in another room to having to watch him like a hawk. From the time he wakes up in the morning until the time he goes to bed, Hughes never.stops.moving and never.stops.putting.things.in.his.mouth. We both fall into bed at night and crash.

That being said, he is the joy of my life. He is SO much fun. He has more personality in that 17 pound body than most adults and he almost always has a smile on his face. He also has a little temper. He gets disciplined when he displays what we call a ‘bad attitude’ (also known as a temper tantrum), and he usually only acts out if he’s really tired and we’ve pushed him hard.

Not only can I hardly believe I have a 9 month old, it’s hard to believe that Chesson only has 2 events left before the playoffs. This season has absolutely flown by. I feel like we were just in Hawaii and here I am booking flights for the next season already.

It has honestly been a pretty high and low season for us. I’ve learned out here that when you’re a tournament winner and have a two-year exemption, you don’t complain. There are guys fighting to keep their card and it (rightly) annoys others when you complain about how you’re playing. That being said, Chesson has struggled quite a bit this season and it can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. Golf is always a grind though, so we will stay patient until it comes around. I fight hard to keep Chesson upbeat and raise Hughes in a joyful and positive environment. The easy way out is to just get discouraged and negative, but it doesn’t help anyone. Golf is not our end all, be all.

It’s fun being at our 2nd major of the year, this time with Hughes in tow. There is a different environment at the majors, and Louisville is representing itself well with its turnout. There were probably 50,000 people at the course yesterday for the PRACTICE ROUNDS. It is insane, but fun to see such a supportive atmosphere.

Catch you all soon!

Blessings,
Amanda

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Wife Wednesday: Mother’s Day

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Hi all,

I’ll be honest- Wednesdays have snuck up on me recently. We’ve had friends or family at the past few events, along with some off-the-course commitments, and I’ve fallen off of blogging. I think our life gets busier by the week, but it’s a good kind of busy. We are all doing great and still soaking in this year.

This past Sunday was my first Mother’s Day and Chesson did an incredible job of making it a day I will never forget. He missed the cut by 1 at the Players, which was a bummer, but it made for a great Sunday to spend together. He had the whole day planned out and wouldn’t tell me any details. We left Ponte Vedra Sunday morning and drove to a swanky hotel on the beach. He booked an awesome room on a high floor right on the beach and had reservations for me at the spa that afternoon. Sunday night, the 3 of us went out to dinner and after H man was in bed, we sat on our balcony watching the dolphins at sunset. It sounds like a rom-com I know, but he seriously did all that! Props to my hubby!! (As a side note: He said this was also to makeup for Valentine’s :P)

More importantly, Sunday was a day I reflected on how much being a mom means to me. The past 6 months have been incredible and Hughes is the joy of my life. I love every day that I get to spend with him and his big brown eyes and constant grin have my heart. I am so thankful God entrusted this blessing to Chesson and me. While birthdays don’t hold the same excitement for me that they used to, I know I will enjoy celebrating each year of motherhood. It’s a high calling, a gift, a learning process, a privilege, and a test of faith all rolled into one

I hope all of you are well. Catch ‘ya soon!

Blessings,
~Amanda~

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Wife Wednesday: Easter, Our Real Reason for Celebration

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Hi all,

I can’t believe May is upon us. The past couple months have absolutely flown by. Although I have loved every stage of Hughes’ life, the age he is at right now (6 months on Friday) is SO FUN. He is no longer a needy newborn who requires our attention most of the time; he has learned independence and does a great job playing by himself. We are really starting to see his personality shine. He is laid-back, goes with the flow, and babbles/ giggles/ smiles all.the.time. He doesn’t miss anything that happens in a room and is constantly moving and jumping. I could sit and watch him all day long, particularly when he doesn’t think I’m looking. He is so funny to me and seems to learn something new every day. Anyways, this post isn’t about Hughes but I thought I would give you a little update.

We celebrated Easter in Hilton Head this year. It was a little different not being home and going to church, but it was an Easter I won’t forget. Every year, there is a sunrise service on the 18th green at Harbour Town and tour pros help lead the service. Chesson had agreed to be a part of it a few weeks prior. Due to the weather delays, the service was in jeopardy all weekend because if every player didn’t finish their Saturday round, they would have to finish early Sunday morning thereby making the 18th hole not usable for the service. Luckily everyone finished right at sunset on Saturday and it was a tough finish for Chesson. He was in the Top 5 going into hole #18 and triple-bogeyed. He was pretty bummed Saturday night and candidly, not as excited about getting up at dark Sunday morning to go lead the Easter service.

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I wasn’t all that excited about getting up so early either, but felt it was important to support Chesson and celebrate the most important day in the Christian faith!  6:30am came quickly and we both dressed and slipped out of the house (leaving H sleeping). It was cold and overcast and I wondered if only a few people would show up. As we were driving into the course, we could see people walking and biking onto the property in droves. They slowed filled in the grandstands of 18 and some musicians started playing worship songs. By the midpoint of the service, there were probably 1000 people gathered to celebrate. A couple of other pros, Ben Martin and Richard Lee, read Scripture and did a responsive reading, then they had Chesson come up and talk about his faith, why Easter is important to him, and offer some encouragement to the crowd.

I couldn’t help but think that 12 hours earlier, he was standing in the same spot making a triple bogey, and now here he was talking about how temporary everything on earth is in light of eternity and nothing that he does on the golf course defines him. It was one of those moments that is ingrained on my heart because we both believe that God has given us the platform we have right now for a reason. Although Chesson is quite outgoing and gets a lot of attention for his funny nature/ finger snap/ “Sun’s out, Gun’s Out”/ overall goofiness, we hope they also see the parts of us that really matter. (Or at least of him. I stay more out of the spotlight, which I’m totally fine with 🙂 ) We have had a lot of reason for celebration in the past year, but none of that compares to the celebration of Jesus’ resurrection from the dead and forgiveness of sin, fulfilling God’s plan for the restoration of all of humanity, freely given to all who believe!

After the service, we had a quick breakfast together in player dining, just the two of us. Most of the only other people in there were the pros who had woken up to come to the service (Stewart Cink, Cameron Tringale, Jordan Spieth to name a few). We don’t get a lot of quiet moments together during a tournament, so it was a nice way to wrap up the morning before going back to the house to see our little man… who was still sleeping! Although it was a different Easter morning that I’m used to, it was a great one.

I hope each of you had a wonderful Easter celebration, and that it consisted of more than dyed eggs and chocolate bunnies… although let’s be real, the white chocolate Reese’s eggs are heavenly. But in all seriousness, our prayer is that each one of you would understand the real significance of Easter.

Blessings,
~Amanda~

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Wife Wednesday: How Life with a Baby is Different When You Live on the Road

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If Hughes could talk, this is what he would tell you about his life on the road…

Starbucks warms my bottles

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Hotel sinks are Mom’s dishwashers

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Desks are my changing station

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My bath tub blows up

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Hotel pillows are my Bumbo seat

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My stroller doubles as a laundry cart

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Every flight attendant thinks it’s my first flight

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I frequently chaperone my parents’ dinner dates… in my pajamas.

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My nursery is usually in the bathroom

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The stroller bassinet is my crib

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… but sometimes I sleep in the car seat

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— or the hotel bed

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… and occasionally an airplane seat

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… then sometimes I nap on the beach

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… but there’s no better sleeping spot than Mom or Dad

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Most importantly, although my life might look different from most babies, I’m just as loved, well-adjusted and thriving, no matter where I am!

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Wife Wednesday: Halftime

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Helping Mom unpack… sort of

Hi all,

I didn’t intend to skip last week and post late today… sorry about that. I try to have my posts up by 8 am on Wednesdays and I’m staring at 11pm, but hey, it’s still Wednesday! Much like our tax returns that probably won’t be postmarked until the 15th, we operate right up to deadlines more often than I would like. (Side note: Did you know PGA Tour players file 25+ tax returns every year? We have to file in every state where we won money. Our poor accountant.)

Anyways, we have been soaking up being at home these 2 weeks, although the break looks very different for me and Chesson. For him, this is down time. He’s been hunting, watching tv marathons, car shopping, and meeting up with friends, along with some light practice. For me, it’s crunch time to catch up on bookkeeping, financial matters, household odds and ends, bank trips, spring clothes swaps, errands, and every other thing I’m not able to do while traveling. I’m definitely still fitting in time with friends and going to my favorite restaurants, but I work more when we’re at home and Chesson works more when we’re on the road (obviously). As for Hughes, I think he loves being home. He sleeps better, has his own room, and has all his toys that he never sees. Poor guy has been stuck with the same 4 small, travel-friendly toys so far this season and here he has the swing/ bouncy seat/ Exersaucer/ and box full of toys. He might be a little sad to leave.

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Tried food for the first time while home. Sweet potatoes!

Speaking of getting back on the road, I titled this post ‘Halftime’ because we are pretty much at the midpoint of the season. Chesson will play roughly 30 events this year and he’s got 14 under his belt so far. What an incredible half-season it has been! To have a win, 3 Top 10s and be 27th on the FedEx Cup Points is more than we could have dreamed and we are so thankful.

I’ve had a few people ask me how the PGA Tour/ traveling with a baby/ living in hotels/ being away so much lifestyle has compared to my expectations. I can honestly say that I love it and it’s not much different from how I thought it would be. I certainly don’t love every minute of it… moments where Chesson taps in for double-bogey, where Hughes decides to announce his hunger to everyone in player dining, or where I’m folding clothes at 11pm in guest laundry are ones I could do without… but at the end of every day, I love that we are living out our dream. I love that I get to see Chesson play. I love that we are doing this together as a family. I love that Hughes is growing up with so many different experiences. I love that we get to try so many new restaurants and meet so many people. It really is fun and if we are fortunate enough to be on Tour for a long time I hope that we never get calloused by it.

We are heading to Hilton Head this weekend for the RBC Heritage tournament and are excited to be driving! I think I might spoil Hughes and pack a bunch of his toys since we aren’t having to check bags. We’ve heard great things about Harbour Town and it will be fun to be there over Easter.

Alright, off to fold laundry. Washing bottles and folding laundry is the common denominator in my daily life, no matter what city I’m in.

Blessings,
~Amanda~

P.S. I got my hair cut while home, courtesy of my BFF who also happens to be an incredible hair stylist… I like to call it my “Mom-cut”. It’s been long since 7th grade so I decided it was time for a change. For you Raleigh folks, Stacie owns The Parlor and you should definitely go there. She cuts Chesson’s hair too.

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